The Missing Male Gender

*Solely derived from my thoughts, which stem from dense observation within the field, coupled with data/literature/research self analysis. Engage how you will*)

To start, boy’s tend to respond better to balanced women than they do men, in positions of authority. Likely because the increase in pseudo male authority occupying positions of decision power, without a parallel level of competence and courage. True authority is influence without needing a name tag for it and kids are not stupid. Below is a simplification, of what I believe to be underlying factors to the current sociological & psychological cycle, that is playing out in western culture.

The percentage of female to male teachers in Elementary & Middle School, is roughly 80% female 20% male. It climbs in secondary school to about 60:40. Boy’s do not get quality Male influence often, as then the coaches at youth levels in America, unlike most European countries, are not coaches by trade. It is equivalent to having someone Teach an 8th grade class because they once were in 8th grade. But nature audits itself & there is now an unavoidably obvious need, for balanced Male influence in society.

Girls who grew up in the 2000’s, were at the forefront of many great changes in females leading the charge. Now you’re seeing that being forced & used as a “social check box” which is not a good idea. Check box initiatives, always lead to stunted progress, as at the end of the day it NEEDS to be REAL. The problem with all of this, via observing thousands and thousands of interactions between kids, teens, young adults & adults, is that female’s, ballpark age 25-35, are much more mature & competent in certain key dimensions, than their male counterparts. And that is why people are electing to have Dog’s & not Children (half kidding).

Males over the past decade & running, have been dropped out of the education system in their early 20’s without any education outside of how to complete school and how to posture for the next place on the timeline. It’s hard to spot as the individual because their tangible time is (or has been) monopolized by packed schedules of check box modalities. Itinerary plotted in the name of “this will be good for your resume. This will get you seen. This will bring you to XYZ.” Every action needing a tightly linked reason outside of itself, which isn’t a binary negative thing once understood & there is self sovereignty. But it is crippling as a staple outlook on life, before the person can articulate & formulate the world around them & inside of them.

Here is further macro analysis about why all of this may be. Males who are not autonomous individuals, at large, are quick to get frustrated & withdraw, slightly resentfully, when they feel like they cannot communicate their experience properly. Expression & articulation are what take an abstract concept & formulates it in a way that is more clear & understood consciously, opposed to remaining as “stirrings” that drive subconscious behavior.

But, as this sociological cycle plays out, there appears to be a potential advantage. I have observed in young men, roughly born between 1993 & 2003, elevated levels of empathy, intuition & palpable curiosity toward living, collectively speaking. It’s all there, those dynamics then need to be cultivated & brought forth to live out deliberately. Once discovered & self-formulated, the next layer starts shaping around the aforementioned qualities. That progression can be summarized using words synonymous with competence, courage, discernment & reason. Without that layer being developed, we see what we have been seeing, in a lot of physical & passive aggressive behavior, projected out in the world. That manifestation can look like something approximating violence, but maybe more dangerously, it can & does also look like meek compliance & lack of self-trust.

The encouraging note though, is that as the individual starts demanding sovereignty FROM themselves and they simultaneously & deliberately seek to grow. They become aware of what they could be & therefor can muster out, with a sense of calm urgency,

“Hey I feel like I’m way more than what I can really communicate or live out, what can I do, to gain access to myself.”

And then the world suddenly has both genders on the highest path that human history has seen, to individual balance, WITH an existing collaboration across domains. That alone takes care of all of the “forcing outcomes” policy, because the maturity, at large, will have significant levels of openness & discernment to deploy. When competence & internal maturity exists, people don’t stand for things that don’t make sense or are forced upon them, as they do not need policy to tell them to look at the world justly & open mindedly. The feminine/masculine balance will be not only restored, but evolved & improved.

So, that seems like good news. I think the future is incredibly bright but like any change, the transformation is painful, chaotic, fearful & resistant. Hence, the past 2 years (& likely another 2 years or so) of fear based compliance & confusion. Keep the faith, think of it as a Cultural Phoenix.

Peter M Russo

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